When I first got pregnant with Bentley at 19 people would sit and tell me loads of amazing advice about being pregnant and becoming a mom, and now being pregnant with Leo at 24 they still say the same things, but I have figured out by this pregnancy that there is just some stuff that no one tells you! So here’s my list of my experience and what I think you should know about being pregnant.
10. Feeling your baby kick you is weird and sometimes painful.
I love feeling my babies kick inside my tummy, but it sometimes is not fun and exciting. One time Bentley kicked me and hit a nerve and I fell into a wall… This time Leo loves to just kick my bladder as I walk so I always feel like I’m going to pee myself. No one explained how weird and sometimes unpleasant it would be.
9.Sometime you will HATE your favorite food.
My favorite food is broccoli ( I know i’m weird ) and I knew about all the cravings I would have but no one told me that quite possibly I would hate my favorite food! My suggestion, eat it when you want it! Don’t hesitate , if you suddenly want your favorite food and have been hating it during the whole pregnancy.. tell your hubby, boyfriend, or who ever to go out and get it.
8. Hormones are crazy
Obviously you hear about having crazy hormones on TV, or from other moms but you think “Nah not me”, but guess what .. One minute you’re sad then happy, then god knows what else. It’s real, and it sucks. With Bentley I wasn’t that bad, but being pregnant with Leo I have found out that I might be a tad bit crazy.. I have been getting a little short tempered with people(mostly family) , then feeling completely guilty 5 seconds later.
You will learn who your real friends are during this time. If you’re a younger mother, most of your friends will not understand shit that is going on with you, or not understand why you cant stay out till 3 am like before because you just want to stay in bed and sleep. My best advice, let them go. From here on out its about you and that baby, and making sure its healthy and happy. You can always join a Mommy group, there are tons around the internet who do understand everything you are going through and if you find the right one you could make some awesome friends who also like to sleep at 3 am.
6. Other Mom’s opinions
Every other mom WILL put their “advice” in your situation. Get over it.. right now. Learn that you will be judged about everything. If you are going breastfeed, if you don’t, if you are going use regular or cloth diapers, if you should co-sleep or not, and etc. You WILL be judged , and you just have to teach yourself that they might “mean well”, but you do whats best for your child. You go by what you think is safest or right for your child. I am super bad about this, I always let what people think into my head and it overwhelms me way to much. I’m slowly learning not to let it bother me and tell them to shut it or ignore them..
Gross, yes I know, but they happen to some moms, and no one ever wants to talk about them because they do suck and they are painful, and gross. If they get too painful see your doctor or midwife so they can give you some cream to help with the pain.
4. Maternity clothes are sometimes ugly and expensive.
Yep, some of them you will look at and say “ew this is what I have to pick from” or “holy cow $40 for a shirt” If you can wear them, my best advice is get a bunch of leggings or yoga pants. Complete life savor and money savor.
3. The last few Weeks..
The last few weeks go by so slow! No one told me that with my second child I would be dying to have baby Leo come out sooner rather than later. Every cramp, pain and total clean fest I am constantly wondering ” Is this it?” no… no its not. Just try and be patient.. Try being the key word.
2. Wives tales to jump start labor.
Of course everyone tells you about them.. Red Raspberry Leaf Tea, Walking, Exercise, sex, Pineapples, and spicy food.. We’ve heard them all, but what no one tells you, is that its completely depressing when NONE of them work.. We have tried everyone out there, except castor oil… I really don’t want to be shitting my self all night so I have stayed away from that one.
1 Being Pregnant is a blessing.
I constantly see the post of fake pregnancies on Facebook from other girls, and at first I thought it was funny… until last January I had a miscarriage.. You hear it happen to some moms and really don’t think it could happen to you.. but it can.. and its the worst feeling ever, but when/if you become pregnant again the over whelming joy feeling of knowing this time its going to be okay… Will make you feel like this child is such a blessing and trust me it is! Yes, I lost a child but now we have an angel watching over us and god has given us another chance. Blessing.
Being Pregnant has its Major ups, and major downs. If you feel depressed about anything, talk to your Doctor/Midwife, friends and family. Ask around to see what advice people give you, but don’t let their opinions become an obsession of doubt in your mind.. it could turn what is suppose to be the most amazing experience into a shity one.
Congrats on the baby, and try to Enjoy your Pregnancy!
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